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ADHD Couple Therapy Colette de Marneffe, Ph.D. Relationship conflicts commonly result from undiagnosed and untreated ADHD. A couple’s relationship frequently suffers when the problems related to ADHD are not addressed. ADHD can often tear apart the fabric of family relationships and undermine the family support system that is so important to reduce ADHD patterns and improve emotional wellbeing. Couple therapy that is specifically tailored to address ADHD can open up new avenues for teamwork and mutual understanding and empathy. Couples affected by ADHD often seek treatment after longstanding frustration and hurt. In many cases, these couples have had previous unsatisfying experiences in therapy. Often, the partner with ADHD feels criticized, blamed or misunderstood. The non-ADHD partner, in turn, may feel overburdened, ignored or letdown. Once ADHD is identified and its role is understood, specific problem solving strategies and communication approaches can bring change in longstanding negative patterns. My therapeutic approach is customized for each couple, but will typically include the following: Psychoeducation. Couples learn about ADHD’s neurological basis and gain an understanding of the specific ways it impacts their lives and relationship. Psychostimulation medication. Medication is often very helpful for symptom reduction. If a joint decision is made to try medication as part of our treatment approach, I will refer you to one or more psychiatrists with whom we work closely. Problem-solving strategies. When daily ADHD patterns, such as forgetfulness, poor time management and disorganization are reduced, an improved, more positive relationship can begin to develop. I work with couples to address any problems that may exist in the balance of household tasks and responsibilities, parenting roles, work/home balance and schedules, and finances. Often couples find themselves caught in frustrating patterns without knowing how to change them. We will examine these roles and negotiate changes based on compromise and each partner’s strengths and weaknesses. Together, we will establish specific behavioral goals that allow change to occur in manageable steps. Communication. Once daily tensions and conflicts are addressed, new possibilities for mutual understanding and closeness are created. This process is fostered by developing new ways of communicating that allow each partner to feel heard and understood. My approach is to teach couples specific communication techniques that help reduce reactivity and defensiveness and create a safety in communicating honestly. Couples are able to rebuild trust when they can listen with empathy to one another’s feelings and experiences. As you engage together in the process of education, problem-solving and improved communication, you can both come to view ADHD as a shared challenge with real solutions, rather than as a problem that divides you.
For more information about Dr. de Marneffe, please visit her page by clicking this link. |
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